Fetishes, Fun and Normal

When it comes to sex, the world is incredibly varied – and there are lots of things which we may or may not expect might turn us on. These are known as fetishes, and we all have them so don’t be afraid to explore them, especial with your gay escort or gay hookup!

Fetishes are completely normal to have, and when you find a partner who either shares your fetish or whose own fetish complements it, then sex can get a whole lot better than you possibly ever imagined. Fetishes can be anything which sexually arouses you; anything from a multitude of things which stimulate the senses, or even remove them, allowing you to gain a differing perspective.

Gay Fetishes

One very common fetish is restraint and bondage. Whether you are a dominant or submissive, the idea of restraint can be very alluring, and can be easily obtained, as you don’t really need to have any specialist equipment – a few scarves and a bed frame will suffice for those just starting out; in time you may well progress to handcuffs, bondage rope, spreader bars and sex harnesses; the world of restraint is vast, and a lot of fun to discover.

Sometimes a fetish can be the feel of a certain material.  Leather, Latex, PVC and Nylon are highly popular within the gay community, and it isn’t hard to see why; these materials not only look hot, but can feel amazing to wear too.

People can sometimes feel embarrassed about sharing their fetishes with their partners, as there is, of course, the fear that they may be judged, or looked upon as “weird”, but if you don’t speak out you’ll never get to discover whether your partner shares the same fantasies as you. Even if they don’t, they may still be willing to help you to fulfil yours, as not speaking out – and being a little experimental with your sex life – can leave you feeling unsatisfied, and therefore needing more, which can potentially damage a relationship in the long-term, as resentment can then build up.

Sometimes you may find a fetish is best kept in fantasies, and that’s fine also; the workings of the mind tend to be a little more extreme than the reality of a situation. You may just be curious about something which you have seen online, and think you might enjoy. There are many ways to explore your own fetishes in ways which are safe, and sane.

When it comes to any kind of BDSM, the emphasis is always on the sane, between consenting partners. Heading to a specialist night or another type of BDSM night can give you an insight on areas which you may enjoy. Role-play is another fun way in which both you and your partner can explore your fetishes. Both of you can become different people for the evening; let the night unfold in new, and crazy, ways which your playmate wouldn’t expect – this not only leads to added excitement within the bedroom, but is also a great way to discover something new, which you may otherwise have been hesitant to pursue. If it doesn’t work out, then there is nothing lost – as after all, it wasn’t you, it was merely the character which you were playing for the evening.