His Place, Yours or somewhere else? Considerations on where to meet

Meeting hot men online has always been a great option, using forums like GayScene lets you chat to likeminded men in your local area or further afield. If you want to take things further with someone you have met online then you have to do a little more preparation.

Practical questions

If you have been chatting online with someone who seems absolutely perfect and you want to meet them in person, perhaps you have even chatted on the phone and now you are ready to meet them for a date then remember to be practical before you meet them. Simple things like meeting in a public place, taking a friend with you or telling a friend where you will be, are straightforward things to consider before spending more private time with someone new.

First Meeting Nerves

Once you have decided to meet and have made the practical arrangements it’s now time to quench those first meeting nerves. If you have decided to meet for the first time for a meal or for drinks, this is a great way to break the ice even if you have chatted on the phone or online before you meet. Drinks and food give your hands something to do and something to comment on and talk about before chatting about more personal topics.

His Place or Yours

If you decide that it is time to get more private with the guy you have been chatting to for a while then the consideration turn to his place or yours? It is something to think in advance about so you know what you are happy with if the topic crops up in an early meeting.

If you choose your own place to find some private time then you will be comfortable with your own things, know where you are going and have everything to hand that you need. If you are looking for someone to share a gay sex role playing fantasy with, which entails a range of additional toys, clothing or other items then meeting at your place might be the sensible idea so your fantasy can be fulfilled.

On the other hand you may not want someone you have only recently been in contact with to be in your home, if you are just looking for an occasional meet and this is not intended to be a long term relationship then perhaps not having them at your place may be the best idea.

His place may be a better option to meet at especially if you don’t live alone and he does, although you may feel like a neutral location is better option if you have just met or he lives a long way from you, or lives in a part of town you don’t know well.

If you both decide a neutral location is best then consider a local hotel or a gay sauna to have some private fun time together.