10 Tips On Being a Better Top

Most gay couples have established positions in the bedroom for how they prefer to have sex. It’s quite a simple formula – one goes on the bottom and one on the top. And yes, those are the names used so there really isn’t anything complicated about this. Each partner has very different roles and it’s usual to swap over occasionally to experience the best of both worlds. But whether you’re used to being a top or not, how can you further improve the experience for the bottom?

1. Be 100% relaxed and enjoy providing heavenly sensations for your partner. Bottoms sometimes can’t understand why tops choose to miss out on half of the pleasure, but if this is your thing, then fully relax and enjoy! A relaxed top is the key to bringing the best gay experiences.
2. Brush up on your anatomy knowledge and be aware of potential issues for your partner. If you’re coupling up with an inexperienced bottom, then the chances are that he won’t be quite as relaxed down there as the more seasoned ones. The anal sphincter muscle is designed to clench tightly, and newbies may find it difficult to release on command. So take it slowly where necessary.
3. Refrain from using slightly derogatory terms, like ’loose’. No bottom is going to like being referred to like this because of its negative connotations, so rule it out of your lexicon immediately.
4. Alternate your speed. It’s no good getting in there and crashing down to beat the heck of his anus. Star with a steady rhythm and build up to something faster. And of course, don’t remember to listen to your partner and be reactive where it’s called for.
5. Stay confident and don’t worry about silly things like your penis size. As long as you know what to do with it then pleasure for your bottom is guaranteed.
6. Use your tongue and breath to create different sensations when giving a rim job. With your tongue, don’t just stick to traditional licking, mix it up a bit by changing your angles, patterns and pressure.
7. Use different techniques from gentle thrusting to jackhammering (pulling your penis out completely) and pounding which is basically thrusting as hard, deep and fast as you can go.
8. Be considerate to your bottom and pull out every once in a while. Obviously not mid-orgasm, but it’s good top etiquette to pause proceedings occasionally to check that all is well down below for your bottom partner. Keep an eye out for any obvious injuries, especially if there’s blood on your penis.
9. Don’t be afraid to bring toys into the bedroom. Some tops can get slightly worried that their bottom will prefer to use toys than have actual sex, but it gives a extra sensation either during foreplay, during or post-coital play.
10. Take momentary breaks while still staying inside him. The pause can be highly erotic as your body screams at you to carry on and it often prolongs and intensifies orgasms for the top while the bottom gets a brief rest from proceedings.