How to talk to your partner about wanting a threesome

For some, a gay threesome is akin to the holy grail. If you’re an aficionado of multiple partners in the bedroom, then you’ve probably fantasised about it for years – possibly even done it before – but whichever way it’s very likely to have been planned out to some extent with most of the finer details tuned to perfection.

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So, what happens if your partner isn’t so experienced? Isn’t so keen? Is nervous about letting someone else in on the bedroom fun? Then your best bet is to take it slowly. If they’ve previously expressed an interest then it might be an easier job. The best way to your partner about wanting a gay threesome is to star the conversation just as you would any other idea that’s potentially contentious.

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The first thing to consider in this type of conversation is where you’re coming from. Is it completely out of the blue? Has it been previously discussed? Is it something that’s actually been planned in the past? Whichever of these scenarios holds true for you, it dictates your initial approach.

• If your partner is a threesome virgin then you should start the conversation gently and progress according to their reactions. There will be those who prefer never to have multiple partners in one bed so be prepared for a ‘no’.
• Perhaps you are both threesome virgins and this is a fantasy you have had for a long time and you want to try and bring it to life!
• If the concept has come up before and you’ve talked it over to some extent, then be careful to go back to the same lines to start with. If it’s been discussed in the abstract but in no great depth, then don’t jump in at the deep end and assume that your partner will follow suit. In this scenario, the dialogue needs to be opened up afresh and give both parties time to decide on what it is that they really want.
• And if it’s been planned out beforehand then you’ve probably got an easy job ahead of you. Just keep in your mind that your partner might want to switch it up or down a bit so don’t count on them wanting exactly the same thing as before.

Where to find the third man?

Another potentially thorny issue to take into account is who will be the one to join you and your man? Do you have a trusted, willing friend? Would you both prefer a sexy gay escort to keep the experience exciting but also distant from your day to day life? To find a sexy gay escort take a look at the postings on GayScene.org, or post your own personal and see who wants to join you!

Ensuring the third man in your sexy gay threesome is someone you both agree upon is an exciting step in making sure you have the best gay sex threesome possible. Converse with your partner. Put your cards on the table and run through the details to match up your expectations. Be prepared to truly listen to your partner. They may not be saying what they truly feel if they can see that this is a big deal for you, sexually. Look out for little clues in their tone of voice and demeanour that could indicate further reassurance is necessary.

And establish those boundaries! Make sure that each of you is crystal clear on what’s ok and what’s not. Having these ground rules laid out beforehand helps to keep the threesome the experience that you’d both been looking for.