Gay Fetish Terms You Should Know When Using A Gay Personals Site

For a smooth and easy ride, when navigating your way through a gay personals site, it really helps to be familiar with the gay fetish lingo. Using the correct abbreviations on gay personals websites like www.gayscene.org stops you feeling shy or embarrassed about asking for what you want.

When you’re on the lookout for your next potential sex partner, on a gay personal site, use our alphabetically-listed guide to identify the kink and fetish labels that are clearly stated on the gay escort profiles.

Gay Sex BDSM – Bondage and Submission is a specific type of S&M (see below) activity that is the ultimate form of sexual trust and respect. It typically involves the use of leather, metal handcuffs, or other restraints to dominate your partner.

Gay Sex CBT – Cock/ball torture is a pleasure/pain punishment that is sometimes dished out to ‘subs’.

Gay Sex Dom/Dominant – In a BDSM relationship, the ‘dom’ is the person who restrains the submissive. Within the gay community, a dominant is the guy who instigates sexual activity.

Gay Sex FF – As a fist fuck is a niche sexual experience, it requires a great deal of preparation, to minimise damage to the tissues of the rectum. Wear gloves and use lots of lube.

Gay Sex Hanky Code – The hanky code originated in the 1970s, and was an easy and effective way for gay and bisexual men to advertise their sexual preferences. A hanky to the left, means you are a ‘top’; wear it to the right are you’re a ‘bottom’.

Colour meanings:

• Black – you’re interested in S&M
• Dark blue – you’re keen on anal sex
• Light blue – oral sex is for you
• Brown – scat (poop) is your thing
• Green – means this gay escort is for hire!
• Grey – is for bondage
• Red – you’re into fisting
• Yellow – waterplay (piss play) floats your boat
• Orange – you’ll try anything!

Gay Sex Leather – This is a gay man who gets off wearing, or by fucking or being fucked by a guy in leather.

Gay Sex Nipple Torture – Intensely erotic, nipple torture can range from licking to twisting, and/or using clamps.

Gay Sex Safe Word – Every sexually active gay man should use a ‘safe word’ when exploring new sex practices. It is used in role-playing sex games, BDSM, and other forms of kink and torture.

Gay Sex S&M (Sadomasochism) – S&M involves two people, and pain that is both inflicted and received consensually.

Gay Sex Slave/Master – The slave (or ‘sub’) is someone who willingly allows their master (‘dom”) to control them. This can be for an hour of erotic pleasure, or for life.

Gay Sex Sub/Submissive – A ‘sub’ is someone who submits to a ‘dom’ and is also usually the person that’s restrained in a BDSM relationship. In a sexual encounter, a sub is also the passive receptive person. And if you see the word ‘switch’ it’s letting you know that the gay man enjoys domination AND submission.