Gay BDSM Limits for Kinky Beginners

Keen to explore the BDSM kink, but not sure how to get started? If you’re new to this erotic fetish, it’s important that you understand the basic ground rules. You can find someone to help you with that on the biggest and best gay forum online www.gayscene.org

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Having limits and boundaries is an essential part of BDSM. Without identifying these factors you’re not keeping yourself safe, and you may also find that experienced kinksters don’t feel inclined to play Master and Servant games with a gay guy who boasts that he has no limits.

Discovering Your BDSM Limits

If you’re a kinky BDSM beginner, there are a number of ways in which you can discover your likes and dislikes. Once you know what turns you on and off, you can define your limits.

Role-Play Games allow you to explore situations and scenarios that can be based on real life or complete fantasy. You can test your limits by engaging in online or phone communication with someone who is willing to play along with you. Pay attention to how you feel when something you don’t like is mentioned. Does it make you uncomfortable or curious?

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Self Play offers you an opportunity to understand what turns you on, on a deeper level. While the options may be somewhat limited, you can still discover that there are aspects of eroticism that you didn’t even know you liked. Try an exercise like edging (orgasm denial), or tasting your own spunk.

Soft Limits Play is an activity that you can enjoy with a partner. It’s a sort of try and test scenario, when you can alter and adjust the limits as you explore and play. You may discover that you feel comfortable taking more than you initially expected, or that you don’t like something at all. It’s essential that you communicate with your partner throughout this experience, and stop if you’re asked to.

Gay BDSM Hard Limits

The limits that must never be pushed are known as ‘hard limits’ on the kink scene. These limits include a variety of things that you don’t like. Perhaps you hate being tickled or spanked, or don’t like the idea of anal penetration. You decide what you will and won’t accept by defining your hard limits that others must respect.

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Never participate in a BDSM activity, if you feel you’re being coerced. ‘No’ is a powerful word and you should use it.

Always discuss your BDSM limits with a Dominant before you give your Submissive consent. Use your safe word if you don’t feel comfortable at any time.

Experienced kinksters are respectful of the BDSM community, and will never overstep the mark to push beyond your limits.