What Does Being Versatile in Gay Sex Mean?

Do you want to enjoy a LOT more sex than you’re currently having? Then it’s time to consider being ‘versatile’. Unlike the guys who post top or bottom specific requirements on our gay message board, the versatile gay man enjoys BOTH options.

A versatile gay man (or vers) is willing to top or bottom during sex. He’s also typically good at communicating his wants and needs, and at being spontaneous with his lover. When your posting on a gay message board, letting everyone know that you’re ‘vers’ can increase your desirability and make you the ideal partner for hot dates.

Know What You Want

When you’ve arranged a hot hook up and sex is definitely on the cards, it’s always best to know what you want from the off. If you have a preference for top or bottom, let your lover know up front. You may decide to be a bottom conditionally for a certain partner, but be willing to switch for a new lover. It’s also important to be clear on your boundaries in both positions.

Foreplay Variations

Being vers isn’t all about which position you prefer when you’re having sex. Your versatility should also ideally extend to how you connect with, and explore, your lover during foreplay. Don’t be shy about taking the leading with kissing and cuddling. And if you want to experiment by using sex toys to stimulate and arouse, go for it!

Trying New Sex Positions

No matter how much you love gay missionary sex or doggie style, trying out a new sex position is part and parcel of being versatile. Use your imagination and have oral or bending over sex in a location that is not your bedroom.

Dominance And Submission

If you’re willing to be versatile during sex, you may also feel the same way about alternating role play than involves dominance and submission. If your BDSM practice usually involves issuing commands as the Master, consider taking on the Slave’s role to experience a uniquely different perspective.

Be Open Minded

As a vers gay man you may hook up with a lover who is equally keen to try something new by switching from top to bottom during sex. Not every gay man is skilled at communicating what they want though. Pay attention to what your lover is hinting at and doing and be open minded about letting them take the lead in the moment.