First Time Preparation for Anal Sex

Anal sex is amazing, but the first time you do it, like anything, it can be a bit nerve wrecking!

Anal sex is necessarily the bastion of gay intercourse. Most sexual play revolves around who is the top (traditionally the ‘giver’) and who is the bottom (traditionally the ‘taker’). It may be that you’re new to gay sex or that you’ve never had a trusted partner, perhaps you really love being a top, or that you’re just anal sex curious – whichever of these holds true gives you a basis to start your first anal sex experience from.

How to have Great Anal Sex

In the beginning – research. Explore what the best gay anal sex positions are, look at how you’re going to have to place your body, decide whether you’d rather take it missionary style or bent over in front of him. Even though it’s your first gay anal sex session, don’t be afraid to express preferences to make it your sexual experience. Talk to your gay friends, don’t be afraid to be steered by other, more experienced, bottoms. You don’t have to do anything they suggest, but they might give you an interesting place to start that you hadn’t thought of.

Anal Sex Partners

Make sure that you do it with a person that you trust. Now, this doesn’t have to be a regular partner, just someone with whom you feel comfortable. Trust is so important in the bedroom; you have to know that they aren’t going to cross boundaries or push you to do more extreme or different things. Anxious feelings are going to detract from how you should be feeling, and you might find that your whole body clamps up in response. Having someone take the control away when you might be feeling a little vulnerable will definitely dial down your pleasure and possibly put you off straying into the anal sex arena again. So do make sure that you choose the best partner for you. This could be a boyfriend or choose an experienced sexy man to make you feel amazing.

Safe Anal Sex

Protection, protection, protection. Unless you’re in a relationship where you know 100% that the guy is clean, then you need to make sure that they are wearing a condom. The risks of not doing so don’t bear thinking about. No matter how much you think you know the person, or have had previous, less invasive, sexual times with them, you mustn’t leave anything to chance. And if your partner refuses to wear one, well, that should be curtains for him. A respectful lover will do their utmost to make this the beginning of a sexual odyssey for you.

First Time Anal Sex Advice

And last, but certainly not least, do consider the physical aspects of anal sex. If you’ve indulged in anal play before then your body might be a little loosened up. If this is the case, then you already have an inkling of what anal sex will feel like. Encourage your body in this by experimenting with different sex toys so you know how and where it’s going to feel good. Lube is key to anal sex, make sure you have lots to hand and trying to make sure you are clean and fresh before you start will make you feel less self-conscious about your first anal sex experience.