Some Kinky Gay Terms to Use on a Gay Message Board

Every kinkster who uses a gay message board, to find the perfect partner for mutual unconventional sexual exploration, should know that there are specific gay terms associated with different types of kinks and fetishes. Using the correct term in your communications will make a big difference to your sex success.

BDSM is the acronym that stands for bondage, domination/discipline, submission/sadism and masochism.

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The most widely known feature of BDSM is undoubtedly bondage. The restraining and immobilization practice can involve handcuffs, ropes, chains, and other paraphernalia.

Bondage that involves wrapping the whole body with some type of material (like clingfilm or plastic) for total immobilisation, is known as mummification.

S&M is the abbreviation of sadism and masochism. Sadism is sexual arousal from inflicting pain. Masochism is your thing if you get turned on experiencing painful sensory stimulation.

A gay guy who is a Dom/Dominant likes to take charge and control in the dominant-submissive sexual dynamic. He may insist on you calling him Master, Sir, or Daddy.

The Power Balance Terms

The Sub/Submissive is the one who relinquishes all control to the Dom.

If you’re happy to take or leave the power, you’re probably a Switch – someone who enjoys domination and submission.

CBT (cock and ball torture) typically involves elongating and pulling the scrotal sac by hanging a range of weighted items including heavy balls on it and smacking the balls with a range of fun items!

Your Master may command you to wear a cock cage for chastity. This device is worn on your manhood to stop you from pleasing yourself.

FF (fisting/fist fucking) is the practice of slowly opening the anus, starting one finger at a time and then working up until the entire hand is inserted.

Edging (withholding orgasm) can be an intensely pleasurable form of torture for a sub.

Not all torture is focused on your genitals. Nipple torture typically involves devices like clamps, clothes pegs, needles, and other items that create painful sensations.

No matter how much you love the kinky stuff, every gay man has his limits. Soft limits are things that you may decide to try in certain circumstances. Hard limits are non-negotiable.

Before diving deep into your specific scene, every kinkster chooses a safe word that is used to immediately stop the action. In some erotic situations where you’re not able to verbally communicate, you may need to use an action like a hard slap on the thigh to signal that you want to STOP!