Ten Taboo Gay Sex Questions You Were Too Afraid To Ask…

1. Should I bareback, or use a condom?

The answer to this question really revolves around whether you are in a committed monogamous relationship or not; it is always better to play safe and use a condom if you are uncertain about a partner’s past relationships, or if your relationship is casual. Barebacking can be extremely pleasurable between two people who have been tested, and who are in a secure relationship, so once these elements have been established, there should be no worries surrounding barebacking.

2. Does being a “bottom” lead to pain?

This can depend on a few things; of course if this is your first time, then expect a little burn, even with copious amounts of lube. You can help yourself loosen up with the use of sexual training aids, such as butt plugs. The rectum is quite a strong muscle, so the more you practice, the more things will be alleviated, and as soon as they do… you will be in heaven every time.

3. What is the best position for anal?

This can depend on personal preference regarding the depth of penetration. Many men like to try sitting on top, as they have more control on how far their partner can ease themselves in. Missionary is also satisfactory for those trying out bottoming for the first time – but if you are looking for some wild sex, then nothing beats being taken from behind!

4. What lube should I use?

It’s best to use a lubricant which is specifically designed for anal sex, but if you intend on using sex toys as well, just double-check that your lube is compatible, as some the oil-based varieties can dissipate a toy within minutes.

5. Should foreplay come into gay sex?

Of course it should! It’s great being in the heat of passion, and you just want to get down and dirty, but oral sex, kissing, licking and cuddling all contribute towards better sex. Take your time with your lover or playmate – it only makes orgasms stronger and longer.

6. Should I ask when he was last tested?

YES! Not only does this show that you are responsible when it comes to your sexual relationships, it also prevents you from contracting anything nasty too. It’s not something that’s worth risking your health over – and if anyone has a problem with you asking this, then stay clear! It’s always better playing safe.

7. Is oral sex overrated?

It’s rare you find guys who don’t like oral sex; it’s gratifying for both partners, and can be just as arousing as intercourse when administered properly. It’s an activity that you can perform together, or take turns; either way, you’ll be on your way to mind-blowing orgasms.

8. Should I douche?

This isn’t essential … but a clean butt, especially if you enjoy activities such as rimming, makes things cleaner and safer. Douching is best performed after emptying the bowels, a couple of hours before intercourse.

9.Top, Bottom, Or Versatile?

This is basically determined by whether you prefer to be the receiver, the giver… or both! Lots of gay men do have a preference, but many are versatile within their relationships.

10. Rimming… “Yes!” or “No!”?

Rimming often coexists with a psychological block; guys think it can be dirty. However, if your partner maintains good personal hygiene, then there’s nothing to be apprehensive about. Of course, you can always enjoy a sexy shower together beforehand, just to make sure. Giving and receiving can be equally pleasurable – and really hot, but if there is any doubt, then it’s always best to ask your partner before jumping right on in!