As the saying goes, ‘no pain, no gain’, in this case it’s attached to sex. Bringing extreme antics into the bedroom won’t be for every gay couple, but for those to whom it does apply, there are a plethora of reasons why whips could be the place to start for your naughty bedroom pleasures. However, it’s important that there’s mutual consent by both parties so you’re on the same page and you know what’s acceptable and what’s not. Having a safe word in this type of sex play is very important so you have a way of halting sex instantly if things go further than you’re comfortable with. Whips are usually associated with the more extreme types of sex, think BDSM, control, fetishes, restraint, gags, ropes and masks. But they can also be used in any way that you choose; maybe a little, maybe a lot. And once you have the basics of the sex play decided, then your fun can begin! Continue…

Leeds has a reputation in the North of England for being one of the best gay-friendly cities around – and quite deservedly so. Leeds prides itself on having a plethora of LGBT-orientated events, bars, pubs and clubs, just to name a few options. So if you’re looking for somewhere to meet-up and hang out with a cool, chilled LGBT vibe, then this should definitely be at the top of your list. The city has easy links for travelling in from the surrounding areas via bus, train and car on the M1 and M62. Continue…

Most gay couples have established positions in the bedroom for how they prefer to have sex. It’s quite a simple formula – one goes on the bottom and one on the top. And yes, those are the names used so there really isn’t anything complicated about this. Each partner has very different roles and it’s usual to swap over occasionally to experience the best of both worlds. But whether you’re used to being a top or not, how can you further improve the experience for the bottom? Continue…

Valentines Day is almost upon us. It’s the most universally acknowledged romantic evening of the year and there are plenty of things to do if you’re heading out for a special evening with that special person. Valentines Day is also a perfect time to introduce a new love into your life. But if you’re meeting up with a new, sexy Valentine for the first time this year then there are some rules of engagement that you should bear in mind to keep your evening as fun and hassle-free as possible. Continue…

What is defined as ‘rubber’?

If you’re already a rubberman then you probably know how to describe the material. But for those who aren’t certain, rubber is often lumped in with latex whereas in fact, it’s a whole different ball game. Latex is a shiny, more PVC type of material which has a lot more stretch and flex. In comparison, rubber is more matte in appearance, less shiny and much thicker. Continue…

Part of the thrill of being with your gay escort is that you get to call the shots. If there are games you want to play, scenarios you’d like played out or role play to satisfy your desires, then all of these, plus more, will be available to you with your escort. Sensory deprivation is at the lighter end of the BDSM scale, if that’s your thing. Continue…

So you’re heading into a gay threesome…..exciting! A threesome can be a perfect way to spice up your sex life, bring a little bit of novelty into the bedroom, or perhaps you have some quirky fantasies that you’re dying to try out. Whichever applies to you, a fun gay threesome will be just the thing to set your heart beating faster. Continue…

Gay message boards are a great way to find people who like what you like, with the advent of apps why are gay message boards still so popular? Well there are a few very good reasons, apps are all very well, but they have some serious limitations. Firstly, you are going to have no knowledge of the gay men that you chat to. They’re all total strangers because apps don’t have a group element, so you’re pretty much putting all your apples in one basket. Continue…

DO – make sure that you protect yourself. Keep your personal details – address, workplace, etc. – to yourself. You can never be sure of someone you’ve just met – even if they do seem like the nicest person on earth. To take it a step further than you can always have a separate PAYG phone for safe communication without revealing your real number. NEVER invite someone you don’t know into your house. Continue…

First question is always – why make requests on a gay message board? The answer is simple; it’s all about seeking out like-minded gay people who might share your thoughts. A message board is a safe online space to share your innermost fantasies and you can be fairly certain that fellow members are not going to be shocked by your requests – however risqué they are. Continue…